Monday, March 01, 2010
Negotiate
This evening we leave for 10 days in Australia.
We will focus on natural beauty, wildlife and the aboriginal culture.
We will have no computer, but will receive email on Robert’s phone.
We will be able to text back short replies.
We will return late on Friday March 12.
If emergency, please email or text Robert or myself.
My emails will be forwarded to his phone.
It is always preferable to find solutions where no one loses.
Win/win solutions seem to be rare.
Seeking the way where everyone is content and at peace is the goal.
With peace a deeper understanding comes.
How do you negotiate when you don’t want to compromise?
How can you find a way so that everyone is happy?
How do you listen for the solution within when everyone has their own opinion?
How do you give up what seems best for you and not best for others?
Compromise is often a lose/lose solution where both parties give up something.
What is best for everyone is necessary to create a beneficial outcome for all parties.
Give the process the time and attention it needs to resolve conflicts and create what works.
Give full attention to listening to the needs of all parties and seeking solutions which meet those needs.
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Steps:
Listen to assess needs of all.
Set the stage for brainstorming solutions.
Brainstorm without judging possible solutions. (Be outrageous and create 30 + solutions)
Evaluate the possible solutions listening for anything that might work.
Choose the 2-3 solutions OK’s by the participants.
Put together an implementation plan.
Revaluate the effectiveness with 30-60 days.
Begin again if needed.
Start by inquiring what is needed by each person involved.
Needs assessments are the most important step in an effective problem solving.
When the individual’s needs are met, it is far easier to co-create acceptable solutions.
Problems or glitches may occur if there are values differences or some parties are unwilling or unable to acknowledge their true needs.
Occasionally individuals simply play to win.
The misunderstanding is that if one loses, all lose.
To negotiate require openness, willingness, appreciation of all points of view.
Negotiation often includes a neutral party or facilitator to ensure the equality of outcome.
It may be up to the most conscious one to let go and support the others in achieving their goals.
Or sometimes it is clear for whom the outcome is most important in which case it is best to let go.
The process of finding that is highest and best for all concerned invites us to be at our best.
We must be conscious, clear, respectful, effective in listening and communicating.
Creating win/win solutions is key to happiness and harmony in our world.
All of us can participate in our work place and home, as well as in politics and finance.
Loving us all into negotiating for the highest Good,
Betty Lue
We will focus on natural beauty, wildlife and the aboriginal culture.
We will have no computer, but will receive email on Robert’s phone.
We will be able to text back short replies.
We will return late on Friday March 12.
If emergency, please email or text Robert or myself.
My emails will be forwarded to his phone.
It is always preferable to find solutions where no one loses.
Win/win solutions seem to be rare.
Seeking the way where everyone is content and at peace is the goal.
With peace a deeper understanding comes.
How do you negotiate when you don’t want to compromise?
How can you find a way so that everyone is happy?
How do you listen for the solution within when everyone has their own opinion?
How do you give up what seems best for you and not best for others?
Compromise is often a lose/lose solution where both parties give up something.
What is best for everyone is necessary to create a beneficial outcome for all parties.
Give the process the time and attention it needs to resolve conflicts and create what works.
Give full attention to listening to the needs of all parties and seeking solutions which meet those needs.
******************************************************
Steps:
Listen to assess needs of all.
Set the stage for brainstorming solutions.
Brainstorm without judging possible solutions. (Be outrageous and create 30 + solutions)
Evaluate the possible solutions listening for anything that might work.
Choose the 2-3 solutions OK’s by the participants.
Put together an implementation plan.
Revaluate the effectiveness with 30-60 days.
Begin again if needed.
Start by inquiring what is needed by each person involved.
Needs assessments are the most important step in an effective problem solving.
When the individual’s needs are met, it is far easier to co-create acceptable solutions.
Problems or glitches may occur if there are values differences or some parties are unwilling or unable to acknowledge their true needs.
Occasionally individuals simply play to win.
The misunderstanding is that if one loses, all lose.
To negotiate require openness, willingness, appreciation of all points of view.
Negotiation often includes a neutral party or facilitator to ensure the equality of outcome.
It may be up to the most conscious one to let go and support the others in achieving their goals.
Or sometimes it is clear for whom the outcome is most important in which case it is best to let go.
The process of finding that is highest and best for all concerned invites us to be at our best.
We must be conscious, clear, respectful, effective in listening and communicating.
Creating win/win solutions is key to happiness and harmony in our world.
All of us can participate in our work place and home, as well as in politics and finance.
Loving us all into negotiating for the highest Good,
Betty Lue
Sunday, February 28, 2010
Roadblocks to Love
Often I focus on the positive and direct route to Love.
For some this may sound impossible or “airey-fairy”.
For others it is known and valued and simply a reminder.
And for others it is an eye-opener and an “aha” moment.
My morning talk at Unity Center for Inspired Living needs the basics of how we “inter-fear” with Love.
The roadblocks to Love are prevalent and accepted in our culture, on media and in everyday friendships.
Gossip, withholding, dishonesty, comparison, demanding, quitting, selfishness, defensiveness, blaming and distrust are a few of the usual and customary roadblocks to Love.
Gossip
To talk about others behind their back is hurtful and destructive to all concerned. (Speaker, listener and the one being talked about.) What we sow we reap. What we listen to, we give tacit encouragement.
Withholding
When we give love, attention and appreciation intermittently, we teach others their behavior determines their worth. When we withhold love, we block the flow of love energy in us. It is not helpful for either.
Dishonesty
When we fib, lie or practice deception, we are teaching that lying is what we want. Lies beget lies and we build relationships which cannot be trusted. No one feels safe or at peace.
Comparison
Judging, evaluating and comparing teach that we need to measure up to an external standard to be loved.
Everyone is unique with their own strengths, talents and natural gifts, their own purpose for being.
Demanding
When we demand or threaten (“You better or else…”), we lead others to believe we are loving them based on our own conditions for right behavior and attitude. We create separation and resistance.
Quitting
To threaten to quit or to quit on loving, is dangerous and harmful to the quitter as much as the loser. When we quit, we are reinforcing the belief others will quit on us, so we better be careful.
Selfishness
When we want things our way (“My way or the high way…”) or when we are only looking at our own interests, we cannot see the need for others to feel safe and loved to give their best.
Defensiveness
To be vigilant for always protecting our own rightness, we shut own the possibility of learning, healing and interfere with the openness and appreciation through which Love flows.
Blaming
When we blame, criticize, tattle on someone, we set them up because of our fears. When we support, encourage, appreciate and keep confidence, we inspire trust and accountability. We are loving.
Distrust
To do not trust others, we are teaching them not to trust themselves and not to trust us.
Trust builds trustworthiness. Trusting is based on believing and seeing what is possible.
While there are many more obstacles to Love, these are the ones often taught and found in our society.
If we even undo one of the roadblocks, more love can flow. When we foster the flow of love, we will seek ways around the obstacles that may appear.
Loving is the way we create health, happiness and fulfillment.
Love is freedom from fear and trust in the Good.
Loving Us All as One,
Betty Lue
For some this may sound impossible or “airey-fairy”.
For others it is known and valued and simply a reminder.
And for others it is an eye-opener and an “aha” moment.
My morning talk at Unity Center for Inspired Living needs the basics of how we “inter-fear” with Love.
The roadblocks to Love are prevalent and accepted in our culture, on media and in everyday friendships.
Gossip, withholding, dishonesty, comparison, demanding, quitting, selfishness, defensiveness, blaming and distrust are a few of the usual and customary roadblocks to Love.
Gossip
To talk about others behind their back is hurtful and destructive to all concerned. (Speaker, listener and the one being talked about.) What we sow we reap. What we listen to, we give tacit encouragement.
Withholding
When we give love, attention and appreciation intermittently, we teach others their behavior determines their worth. When we withhold love, we block the flow of love energy in us. It is not helpful for either.
Dishonesty
When we fib, lie or practice deception, we are teaching that lying is what we want. Lies beget lies and we build relationships which cannot be trusted. No one feels safe or at peace.
Comparison
Judging, evaluating and comparing teach that we need to measure up to an external standard to be loved.
Everyone is unique with their own strengths, talents and natural gifts, their own purpose for being.
Demanding
When we demand or threaten (“You better or else…”), we lead others to believe we are loving them based on our own conditions for right behavior and attitude. We create separation and resistance.
Quitting
To threaten to quit or to quit on loving, is dangerous and harmful to the quitter as much as the loser. When we quit, we are reinforcing the belief others will quit on us, so we better be careful.
Selfishness
When we want things our way (“My way or the high way…”) or when we are only looking at our own interests, we cannot see the need for others to feel safe and loved to give their best.
Defensiveness
To be vigilant for always protecting our own rightness, we shut own the possibility of learning, healing and interfere with the openness and appreciation through which Love flows.
Blaming
When we blame, criticize, tattle on someone, we set them up because of our fears. When we support, encourage, appreciate and keep confidence, we inspire trust and accountability. We are loving.
Distrust
To do not trust others, we are teaching them not to trust themselves and not to trust us.
Trust builds trustworthiness. Trusting is based on believing and seeing what is possible.
While there are many more obstacles to Love, these are the ones often taught and found in our society.
If we even undo one of the roadblocks, more love can flow. When we foster the flow of love, we will seek ways around the obstacles that may appear.
Loving is the way we create health, happiness and fulfillment.
Love is freedom from fear and trust in the Good.
Loving Us All as One,
Betty Lue
¤ I love you ¤
and I know you love me too.
LOVE IS FREEDOM
The freedom for you and I to be who we are.
The freedom to live life as we do.
The freedom to make mistakes and learn from them.
The freedom to express our own truth as we see it.
LOVE IS TRUST
The trust that there is a constant flow of love,
no matter what.
The trust that, in spite of life’s problems,
we believe in and support each other’s right
to live as we choose.
The trust that in adversity,
there is healing and learning and gifts of love.
The trust that under conflict and emotional expression,
there is love
I love you and I trust you.
I free you to be all you are.
LOVE IS FREEDOM
The freedom for you and I to be who we are.
The freedom to live life as we do.
The freedom to make mistakes and learn from them.
The freedom to express our own truth as we see it.
LOVE IS TRUST
The trust that there is a constant flow of love,
no matter what.
The trust that, in spite of life’s problems,
we believe in and support each other’s right
to live as we choose.
The trust that in adversity,
there is healing and learning and gifts of love.
The trust that under conflict and emotional expression,
there is love
I love you and I trust you.
I free you to be all you are.
Betty Lue 1978
Saturday, February 27, 2010
Finding Love
Destination: Love
Intention: Finding the Love You Seek
Itinerary: The High Way to Know Love and Be Love
Work: Be happy and free in Knowing and Being
Function: Remove all obstacles to the awareness of Love’s Presence.
What if we are already in the midst of Love?
What if we have been seeking for that which we have?
What if it is our self made blocks that keep us from experiencing Love?
What if we have been defining our own “form” of love and have missed the Truth of Love?
Is it possible that our sophisticated and adulterated thinking has created illusions about Love?
Could it be that we, individually and collectively, have been engaged in a massive deception?
Is there a way we can achieve the experience of perfect Love right now without needing anything?
Can it be that our “wanting” what we mistakenly believe we do not have has deluded our perception?
Love is energy, creative potential.
Love is beauty, harmony within the soul.
Love is joy, the natural joy of discovery.
Love is appreciation, savoring the riches of life itself.
Love is music, the dance of sensing the Goodness within.
Love is laughter, the delight of playing with what is around us.
Love is union, the holy instant of seeing within you a reflection of me.
Love is creativity, imagining the wonder of all living in harmony and peace.
Could it be we are seeking merely to erase all the roadblocks to Love?
Are we here to forgive and erase the fortress we have built against Love?
Is there a willingness to simply go for it and Love careless of our past wounds?
Can we give ourselves an opportunity to say “Yes” to all forms and energies of loving?
Long ago, after experiencing a pattern of betrayals, infidelity and lies, I made a decision!
I would rather love and lose than withhold my Love from anyone.
No one and nothing could stop me from loving.
I will no longer let fear build a barrier to Love.
I choose to love no matter what.
I will never quit on loving.
Love is always available when we open the flow and give love without ceasing.
Forgive yourself for withholding Love.
Forgive everyone for being afraid to Love.
Forgive the stories that remind us to be careful in Love.
Forgive the blocks you have made to stop you from living in Love.
Loving you in remembering Love is your natural state,
Betty Lue
Love waits on welcome, not on time. From ACIM
Intention: Finding the Love You Seek
Itinerary: The High Way to Know Love and Be Love
Work: Be happy and free in Knowing and Being
Function: Remove all obstacles to the awareness of Love’s Presence.
What if we are already in the midst of Love?
What if we have been seeking for that which we have?
What if it is our self made blocks that keep us from experiencing Love?
What if we have been defining our own “form” of love and have missed the Truth of Love?
Is it possible that our sophisticated and adulterated thinking has created illusions about Love?
Could it be that we, individually and collectively, have been engaged in a massive deception?
Is there a way we can achieve the experience of perfect Love right now without needing anything?
Can it be that our “wanting” what we mistakenly believe we do not have has deluded our perception?
Love is energy, creative potential.
Love is beauty, harmony within the soul.
Love is joy, the natural joy of discovery.
Love is appreciation, savoring the riches of life itself.
Love is music, the dance of sensing the Goodness within.
Love is laughter, the delight of playing with what is around us.
Love is union, the holy instant of seeing within you a reflection of me.
Love is creativity, imagining the wonder of all living in harmony and peace.
Could it be we are seeking merely to erase all the roadblocks to Love?
Are we here to forgive and erase the fortress we have built against Love?
Is there a willingness to simply go for it and Love careless of our past wounds?
Can we give ourselves an opportunity to say “Yes” to all forms and energies of loving?
Long ago, after experiencing a pattern of betrayals, infidelity and lies, I made a decision!
I would rather love and lose than withhold my Love from anyone.
No one and nothing could stop me from loving.
I will no longer let fear build a barrier to Love.
I choose to love no matter what.
I will never quit on loving.
Love is always available when we open the flow and give love without ceasing.
Forgive yourself for withholding Love.
Forgive everyone for being afraid to Love.
Forgive the stories that remind us to be careful in Love.
Forgive the blocks you have made to stop you from living in Love.
Loving you in remembering Love is your natural state,
Betty Lue
Love waits on welcome, not on time. From ACIM
Friday, February 26, 2010
The High Way to Love
The High Way is fun, safe and easy.
The High Way flows with effortlessness.
The High Way moves around and through obstacles.
The High Way never ends or quits.
When there are clogs or traffic jams or accidents on High Ways, we trust they will clear.
When there are delays due to weather, construction detours or rush hour traffic, we know it will open.
When there are new roads, city bypasses and bridges built, we adjust to changes in the flow.
The High Way system of love is ever-changing in form but always flowing with Love.
Life provides our inner Love system with opportunities to explore our own inner flow.
We have myriad opportunities for building bridges and bypasses when there are clogs.
We are offered the chance to notice where we send most of our love in one direction.
We can take responsibility for seeing where we have ignored a need for opening the flow.
High Ways to Love are filled with Trust.
Trust is the way we allow the current state to be noticed without fear or judgment.
Trust is the needed ingredient to address a blockage rather than dismiss the need for attention.
Trust is key to remembering the Source of Loving Solutions is always within us.
High Ways to Love require freedom.
Freedom of flow without excluding anyone is essential to ease of Loving.
Freedom to continue to do the best we know in our loving relationships no matter what seems to be.
Freedom is required to love without restriction or bottlenecks in the flow of love energy.
Discovering the High Way to Love requires that we get an overview or map of our love system.
Assessing where we need to build bridges invites us to look for where there are unserved people.
Where we are giving too much to some and too little to others shows where bypasses are needed.
Acknowledge that we must serve ourselves first by clearing the inner clogs and traffic jams of the heart.
To live in a high state of loving is like flying over the earth and blessing everyone everywhere.
To love without ceasing is like turning on the faucet of love and flowing endlessly always receiving.
To flow effortlessly requires a great maintenance plan of routine self Love and appreciation.
Moving around resistance, conflict and separation requires us to appreciate how Love always seeks to be given without invitation or restriction.
Learning to give Love, simply for the Joy of it, bring health, happiness and harmony.
May it be so.
Loving you,
Betty Lue
The High Way flows with effortlessness.
The High Way moves around and through obstacles.
The High Way never ends or quits.
When there are clogs or traffic jams or accidents on High Ways, we trust they will clear.
When there are delays due to weather, construction detours or rush hour traffic, we know it will open.
When there are new roads, city bypasses and bridges built, we adjust to changes in the flow.
The High Way system of love is ever-changing in form but always flowing with Love.
Life provides our inner Love system with opportunities to explore our own inner flow.
We have myriad opportunities for building bridges and bypasses when there are clogs.
We are offered the chance to notice where we send most of our love in one direction.
We can take responsibility for seeing where we have ignored a need for opening the flow.
High Ways to Love are filled with Trust.
Trust is the way we allow the current state to be noticed without fear or judgment.
Trust is the needed ingredient to address a blockage rather than dismiss the need for attention.
Trust is key to remembering the Source of Loving Solutions is always within us.
High Ways to Love require freedom.
Freedom of flow without excluding anyone is essential to ease of Loving.
Freedom to continue to do the best we know in our loving relationships no matter what seems to be.
Freedom is required to love without restriction or bottlenecks in the flow of love energy.
Discovering the High Way to Love requires that we get an overview or map of our love system.
Assessing where we need to build bridges invites us to look for where there are unserved people.
Where we are giving too much to some and too little to others shows where bypasses are needed.
Acknowledge that we must serve ourselves first by clearing the inner clogs and traffic jams of the heart.
To live in a high state of loving is like flying over the earth and blessing everyone everywhere.
To love without ceasing is like turning on the faucet of love and flowing endlessly always receiving.
To flow effortlessly requires a great maintenance plan of routine self Love and appreciation.
Moving around resistance, conflict and separation requires us to appreciate how Love always seeks to be given without invitation or restriction.
Learning to give Love, simply for the Joy of it, bring health, happiness and harmony.
May it be so.
Loving you,
Betty Lue
Thursday, February 25, 2010
Always Loving You!
Are you always loving you?
Do you love yourself unconditionally?
Are you willing to accept yourself the way you are?
Are you trusting and believing in you everyday all the way?
Most have learned love needs to be earned.
Most believe love has implied conditions.
Most have experienced what appears to be the end of Love.
Most assume Love requires special relationships with special favors.
This form of human (egoic) loving is based on performance and preferences.
This feeling of love seems to change with moods, beliefs, history and chemistry.
This way of loving is uncertain and requires vigilance in how to get and maintain love.
This loving state is not natural but is conjured up based on the images of love from our past.
When we are caught in the web of Love, we try hard not to get hurt and to keep what feels good.
When we are in love with being loved, we often seek to hang on to the high of “in love” feelings.
When we are seeking the love we lost as children or to get the love we deserve, we attach to wherever it seems to be found.
When we do not love ourselves, we work to get others to love us to make up for our lack of love.
How do we sustain that loving feeling?
How do we love ourselves unconditionally?
How do we not get hurt by others lack of love?
How do we pass the test of perfect peace in all relationships?
1) Forgive everything and everyone for all time, including yourself.
2) Give yourself impeccable care inside and out, mind, body and spirit.
3) Listen within for “What is really best for me today?” and respond with willingness.
4) Honor your whole life with all its seeming mistakes, highs and lows, all of it.
5) Take responsibility happily for the life you have chosen and how you have experienced it.
6) Be willing to own your values and live them openly in all circumstances .
7) Trust your self and believe in yourself. Cast out fear and doubt.
8) Choose to affirm in everyway your Goodness, your Wholeness and your Love.
Learning to let go of doubt, fear, comparison and self judgment is the key to consistent happiness.
Letting go of your judged history, limiting beliefs and the opinions of others is key to inner peace.
Realizing your unlimited potential and power to choose and be responsible is essential to security.
Creating your daily life and relationships to support the best in you is necessary to love you well.
Loving you consistently without conditions eliminates the dependence on others’ love and approval.
“I no longer need others approval. I now approve of myself.
Trusting and Freeing yourself to choose what is best for you is best for everyone.
“I now can say “NO” without losing anyone’s love.”
You are Love ItSelf.
You are created by Love as Love for the Holy purpose of Loving.
When you remember this Truth consistently, you are happy and at peace.
When you forget and seek to get Love outside yourself, you may experience disappointment and conditional loving.
Loving you unconditionally as I love myself,
Betty Lue
Do It Anyway
People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies. Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you.
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy it all overnight.
Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.
Do you love yourself unconditionally?
Are you willing to accept yourself the way you are?
Are you trusting and believing in you everyday all the way?
Most have learned love needs to be earned.
Most believe love has implied conditions.
Most have experienced what appears to be the end of Love.
Most assume Love requires special relationships with special favors.
This form of human (egoic) loving is based on performance and preferences.
This feeling of love seems to change with moods, beliefs, history and chemistry.
This way of loving is uncertain and requires vigilance in how to get and maintain love.
This loving state is not natural but is conjured up based on the images of love from our past.
When we are caught in the web of Love, we try hard not to get hurt and to keep what feels good.
When we are in love with being loved, we often seek to hang on to the high of “in love” feelings.
When we are seeking the love we lost as children or to get the love we deserve, we attach to wherever it seems to be found.
When we do not love ourselves, we work to get others to love us to make up for our lack of love.
How do we sustain that loving feeling?
How do we love ourselves unconditionally?
How do we not get hurt by others lack of love?
How do we pass the test of perfect peace in all relationships?
1) Forgive everything and everyone for all time, including yourself.
2) Give yourself impeccable care inside and out, mind, body and spirit.
3) Listen within for “What is really best for me today?” and respond with willingness.
4) Honor your whole life with all its seeming mistakes, highs and lows, all of it.
5) Take responsibility happily for the life you have chosen and how you have experienced it.
6) Be willing to own your values and live them openly in all circumstances .
7) Trust your self and believe in yourself. Cast out fear and doubt.
8) Choose to affirm in everyway your Goodness, your Wholeness and your Love.
Learning to let go of doubt, fear, comparison and self judgment is the key to consistent happiness.
Letting go of your judged history, limiting beliefs and the opinions of others is key to inner peace.
Realizing your unlimited potential and power to choose and be responsible is essential to security.
Creating your daily life and relationships to support the best in you is necessary to love you well.
Loving you consistently without conditions eliminates the dependence on others’ love and approval.
“I no longer need others approval. I now approve of myself.
Trusting and Freeing yourself to choose what is best for you is best for everyone.
“I now can say “NO” without losing anyone’s love.”
You are Love ItSelf.
You are created by Love as Love for the Holy purpose of Loving.
When you remember this Truth consistently, you are happy and at peace.
When you forget and seek to get Love outside yourself, you may experience disappointment and conditional loving.
Loving you unconditionally as I love myself,
Betty Lue
Do It Anyway
People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies. Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you.
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy it all overnight.
Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
Impressions and Perceptions
What is the impression you wish to leave your world?
How do you want people to see you?
What do you want people to believe about you?
How can you let others know what is true for you?
Is there a way to have no misunderstandings?
There is a way to influence others with your words, behaviors and most powerfully your thoughts.
There is no way to control others’ perception of our words, behavior and thoughts.
There is no way to prevent misunderstandings.
However there is a way to choose peace.
There is a way to simply observe what appears to be.
There is a way to forgive and undo our judgments of what is.
There is a way to let go of the negative and hurtful and perceive the underlying gifts of love.
There are impressions we want to leave with others.
These impressions are best given when we believe in ourselves.
The impressions we want to leave are an act of ego, personality and body language.
Like actors on the stage of life, we are all performing.
Act angry to cover our hurt and fear.
Act angry to keep others at bay.
Act angry to get what we want.
Act angry to let off withheld energies.
Act hurt and needy to attract caretakers.
Act small and fearful to get others to protect.
Act victimized and wounded to get sympathy and help.
Act incapable and disabled to get others to do it for us.
Act compassionate to feel connected.
Act compassionate to be trusted.
Act compassionate to be helpful.
Act compassionate to extend kindness.
Act defensive to protect vulnerability.
Act defensive to avoid seeing others perceptions.
Act defensive to perpetuate separateness.
Act defensive to maintain righteousness.
Every behavior will be interpreted by others through their own set of experiences and beliefs.
Every word will be heard through filters of fears, judgments, clouds of doubt and distortion.
Every thought is a picture of what is believed that we want to be perceived by others.
Every choice we make is an opportunity to take full responsibility for what we value.
Conscious choice is our power tool.
With clarity and communication we can choose to leave an impression that is certain.
With confusion and complexity, ambivalence and fear we will leave faulty impressions that are variable.
Choosing to live what we value with our words, attitude and activities is the most effective impression we can give. ( However others may still have their own perceptions based on what is in their mind.)
Amazing at how we are unable to control other’s thoughts….but we can control our own!
Loving us all,
Betty Lue
How do you want people to see you?
What do you want people to believe about you?
How can you let others know what is true for you?
Is there a way to have no misunderstandings?
There is a way to influence others with your words, behaviors and most powerfully your thoughts.
There is no way to control others’ perception of our words, behavior and thoughts.
There is no way to prevent misunderstandings.
However there is a way to choose peace.
There is a way to simply observe what appears to be.
There is a way to forgive and undo our judgments of what is.
There is a way to let go of the negative and hurtful and perceive the underlying gifts of love.
There are impressions we want to leave with others.
These impressions are best given when we believe in ourselves.
The impressions we want to leave are an act of ego, personality and body language.
Like actors on the stage of life, we are all performing.
Act angry to cover our hurt and fear.
Act angry to keep others at bay.
Act angry to get what we want.
Act angry to let off withheld energies.
Act hurt and needy to attract caretakers.
Act small and fearful to get others to protect.
Act victimized and wounded to get sympathy and help.
Act incapable and disabled to get others to do it for us.
Act compassionate to feel connected.
Act compassionate to be trusted.
Act compassionate to be helpful.
Act compassionate to extend kindness.
Act defensive to protect vulnerability.
Act defensive to avoid seeing others perceptions.
Act defensive to perpetuate separateness.
Act defensive to maintain righteousness.
Every behavior will be interpreted by others through their own set of experiences and beliefs.
Every word will be heard through filters of fears, judgments, clouds of doubt and distortion.
Every thought is a picture of what is believed that we want to be perceived by others.
Every choice we make is an opportunity to take full responsibility for what we value.
Conscious choice is our power tool.
With clarity and communication we can choose to leave an impression that is certain.
With confusion and complexity, ambivalence and fear we will leave faulty impressions that are variable.
Choosing to live what we value with our words, attitude and activities is the most effective impression we can give. ( However others may still have their own perceptions based on what is in their mind.)
Amazing at how we are unable to control other’s thoughts….but we can control our own!
Loving us all,
Betty Lue
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
Full Days
What do you do when life is full?
Do you get grouchy and tired?
Do you stop and breathe in energy?
Do you remember to be grateful?
What do you do when life is chanllenging?
Do you stop, look and listen?
Do you give yourself time outs?
Do you say a little prayer for guidance?
What do you do when life is a gold mine?
Do you take just what you need?
Do you share with those around you?
Do you give thanks and really enjoy the moment?
What do you do when you are amazed and amused?
Do you let yourself really appreciate the moment?
Do you take it all in with laughter and joy?
Do you deeply appreciate all of life’s gifts?
What do you do when there is a change in direction?
Do you adapt with patience and trust?
Do you ask and follow intuition and inner guidance?
Do you let yourself be curious and interested in what’s next?
What do you do when you are confused and conflicted?
Do you let yourself know that you don’t know?
Do you wait for clarity and focus?
Do you allow yourself to be still and open?
What do you do when you are lost and uncertain?
Do you be gentle with yourself as a loving parent with a child?
Do you be reassuring and kind in your inner thoughts?
Do you take the time to simply assess where you are?
Wherever you are and whatever you do, life is a learning and listening opportunity for you.
Wherever you go and whomever you are with, life is an experience of healing and gifts.
Whenever you remember to listen inside, you will hear your inner voice be happy with pride.
However you live and whatever you give, your life is an example of how the world can live.
We are a family of friends, spiritual companions on a journey together.
We are here to awaken and remind one another of what might be a better way to go.
We are gifts to our world, volunteers in service to healing and creating a new world.
We can let the past go, and live fully in the present, preparing the way for future generations.
Thank you for your willingness to join with me in this journey of Love,
Betty Lue
Do you get grouchy and tired?
Do you stop and breathe in energy?
Do you remember to be grateful?
What do you do when life is chanllenging?
Do you stop, look and listen?
Do you give yourself time outs?
Do you say a little prayer for guidance?
What do you do when life is a gold mine?
Do you take just what you need?
Do you share with those around you?
Do you give thanks and really enjoy the moment?
What do you do when you are amazed and amused?
Do you let yourself really appreciate the moment?
Do you take it all in with laughter and joy?
Do you deeply appreciate all of life’s gifts?
What do you do when there is a change in direction?
Do you adapt with patience and trust?
Do you ask and follow intuition and inner guidance?
Do you let yourself be curious and interested in what’s next?
What do you do when you are confused and conflicted?
Do you let yourself know that you don’t know?
Do you wait for clarity and focus?
Do you allow yourself to be still and open?
What do you do when you are lost and uncertain?
Do you be gentle with yourself as a loving parent with a child?
Do you be reassuring and kind in your inner thoughts?
Do you take the time to simply assess where you are?
Wherever you are and whatever you do, life is a learning and listening opportunity for you.
Wherever you go and whomever you are with, life is an experience of healing and gifts.
Whenever you remember to listen inside, you will hear your inner voice be happy with pride.
However you live and whatever you give, your life is an example of how the world can live.
We are a family of friends, spiritual companions on a journey together.
We are here to awaken and remind one another of what might be a better way to go.
We are gifts to our world, volunteers in service to healing and creating a new world.
We can let the past go, and live fully in the present, preparing the way for future generations.
Thank you for your willingness to join with me in this journey of Love,
Betty Lue
