Friday, November 05, 2004

Common Sense Healing 

Can you tell when people are afraid?

When people are afraid, how do they act?
They may act cocky and arrogant.
They may act timid and shy.
They may act belligerent and angry.
They may act defensive and argumentative.
They may be attacking and threatening.
They may act shaky and contracted.
They may act judgmental and questioning.
They may act needy and dependent.
They may act blaming and resentful.
They may act exhausted and defeated.
They may act crazy and out of control.
They may act hyper and have difficulty focusing.
They may act manic and grandiose.
They may act accusatory and righteous.
They may act in many ways we have not described here.

What can you do with people who are afraid?

When people are afraid, what do they need and want?
Reassurance, safety, a place to express, a friend or community, something to trust, kind words…
Look within at what you need when you are afraid and offer this freely to others.

When people are afraid, give them information, no secrets or withholds.
When people are afraid, give them reassurance that love will prevail.
When people are afraid, give them an opportunity to express their fears without resistance.
When people are afraid, give them time to gather their thoughts and feelings.
When people are afraid, give them comfort and community.
When people are afraid give them safety and peace.
When people are afraid, give them confidence and direction.
When people are afraid, give them your full attention.
When people are afraid, give them your genuine promises of what you are willing to do.
When people are afraid, give them affection and healing touch.
When people are afraid, give them space and time to handle their emotions.
When people are afraid, give them patience and trust in their process.
When people are afraid, give them Light and Love.
When people are afraid, give them the best you have.

When you are afraid of people who are acting out their fear, are you willing to give you what you need?
I am loving me and you with the best I have,
Betty Lue