Monday, August 31, 2009
To let go of a job, relationship, or way of being requires that we have honorable closure.
To let go of a belief, experience or memory invites us to soak up the very best and release the rest.
To let go with gratitude and inner peace requires that we complete the experience.
Everyday when the sun goes down, we can let go of the day that has been.
Every night when we close our eyes, we must be done with the events of the day.
When we leave a job or leave a home, we can finish what we began.
When we lose a loved one, we can make amends for our regrets and be glad for all we gave and received.
Life is a sacred journey with cycles and seasons for everything.
To move on with full enthusiasm and inspiration, we must complete the past.
To continue to chew and digest yesterdays meal is called indigestion and is an uncomfortable state.
To continue to ponder and analyze yesterday’s conversation is a source of distraction and incompletion.
To live a life of no regrets is to say “I am sorry.” When needed to heal.
To live a life of no regrets is to fully express the gratitude you feel.
To live a life of no regrets is to be at peace with all that was.
To live a life of no regrets is to stop figuring out the “why” and “because”.
Too much time, money and energy is spent on asking why when you will never fully understand.
Too much distraction, disappointment and confusion consumes you, when you are stuck in the past.
Too much hesitation, caution and procrastination comes from trying to make no mistakes.
Too much loss of time, sleep and enjoyment is experienced when we go over and over what has been.
Get on with living, loving and giving by completing your past.
Get on with choosing, connecting and committing by letting love flow.
Get on with listening, laughing and learning by enjoying what is right now.
Get on with receiving the Gift of Life you are given by appreciating Being You.
Life is an experiment.
Life is a game.
Life is a journey.
Life is an adventure.
However, you approach your life, make it fun, safe and easy for you.
We are all here learning together
We are all here doing the best we know.
We are all here forgiving the past so we can receive the Present.
Live with no regrets. Just Live!
See my piece written long ago on Honorable Closure below.
How do you complete a relationship, a marriage, a teaching-learning experience, a job, a friendship?
How do you know you are really complete?
Often people walk away without really finishing the spiritual work, because it is easier emotionally.
People don’t know how to come to a truly peaceful place, where “good-bye” is really “God be with You.”
When we are complete, we are at peace and in love.
We have no regrets, no resentments, no unhappy memories.
Honorable closure acknowledges:
1) the learning and growth received,
2) challenges and difficulties experienced,
3) appreciation of gifts and blessings,
4) forgiveness and amends made.
Acknowledge your self and the other person for all that you have learned and how you have grown and benefited from the experience.
Honor and express the challenges and difficulties that occurred and perhaps were endured during the time together.
Offer your gratitude and appreciation to the other for the benefits you received.
Share your forgiveness and/or make amends for those places of unconscious or conscious errors of omission or commission.
Often neither party is aware of what went unexpressed until the two have an opportunity to talk together.
This is very valuable when done with the conscious intention for a peaceful conclusion.
And lastly, give your full appreciation and blessings to those whom you are leaving.
Honorable closure always includes a face to face or heart to heart connection so that all parties have a full opportunity to express their piece of the whole. Incompletion is never one sided.
If one party loses and is in grief neither person is at peace.
Do your part when you part.
When we complete a relationship, job, living situation with honor for all, we are free to choose again without being haunted by the past or unconsciously repeating the same patterns.
To move on, to create anew, to be fully inspired requires honorable closure.
Saying good-bye can be done with love, respect and profound gratitude and inner peace.