Thursday, February 11, 2010


How do you make decisions?
How did you see decisions made in your family of origin?
Are you clear confident and committed or confused, uncertain and ambivalent?
The energy around our decisions determines their outcome?

When making effective decisions, do you trust your intuition, your feelings, your logic or your gut?
Do you rely on other’s advice, opinions, stories and experiences or research of experts?
Do you give the power of decision-making over to others or take full responsibility for your own?
Do you blame yourself or others when your decisions have unhappy outcomes or feel like mistakes?

The past history of our decision-making of may set the tone of your future certainty and commitment.
When we are 100% confident, we experience a 100% outcome.
When we are ambivalent, we yield a mixed result.
The objective is to be clear confident and committed.

We will of course attract those opinions around us to express our unexpressed uncertainties.
We will get the validation that we know within ourselves.
We will believe what we want to believe when we have made up our minds.
We will naturally choose what we really want anyway, either taking full or partial responsibility.

Some suggestions:
When in doubt, wait until your are clear and confident to reap the most beneficial results.
Find some pertinent questions to ask yourself to determine what will yield the result you want.
·     Will this decision be best for all concerned?
·     Does this meet the values by which I live?
·     Do I really know what is best for me at this time?
·     Is this decision being made based on fear or on love?
·     If you were advising a dear friend, what would you ask?
·     What would you suggest or advise?
·     Is this a decision you would be proud of sharing with your children or your admired elders?

One powerful way of making decisions is to ask for guidance and listen within for what is truly for the best.
When the decision is made, give it to God, to Goodness for all.
Ask that everything your choose be used for the Good of all.

So often we get into arguments with our partners, children, parents and others about the decisions being made.
This it totally unnecessary when each person feels safe to acknowledge their preferences and the degree to which it matters to them.
It is easy to support those we love and respect when they really want or need something to be decided their way.  More on this later……

Loving and blessing us all in our wise, loving and respectful decision-making,
Betty Lue

Do It Anyway

People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies.  Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you.
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy it all overnight.
Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.